“I’m not changing your lightbulb for you”. My boyfriend said, as I moaned and groaned and whined at him.
“But I can’t doooo it. I don’t know what size I need or how it fits…ugh HELP ME! I am currently getting dressed in the dark and I can’t fix it, I don’t even know where to start. I’ve been living in DARKNESS for months. MONTHS!”
If someone had recorded me and played me back, I can imagine I probably sounded like a 5 year old girl who had drop her ice cream and demanded that someone, anyone, immediately run to buy me a new one, and present it to me on a golden cushion.
Then it dawned on me. The reason my boyfriend was putting his foot down (as I stomped mine) was because I was being hypocritical. I shout and tweet about feminism on a daily basis, hating on any magazine or individual who openly gender stereotypes, and there I was doing exactly that. It was hardly ‘sister’s doin’ it for themselves’. This casual sexism had crept up on me silently trying not to be noticed. I didn’t realise that there are small things I do daily which completely contradict my feminism chat. I was getting angry about current adverts showing women in the kitchen, whilst expecting my boyfriend to be ready with a toolkit at all times.
After thinking about this little conversation, it dawned on me that whining at needing help at changing my lightbulb is pretty much the same as him whining at me for not baking a cake and doing the washing up. And you can imagine how badly that would have gone down.
So, my thought for the day: It’s important for women to wave the anti-sexism flag whilst bearing in mind that you can’t just expect men to always carry your bags for you. It goes both ways. I know Lady Gaga has never actually been quoted to say she’s a feminist, but she should probably learn how to open car doors. It’s generally just a useful skill to have. (see .gif above)